a word from tori amos:
Because the love that this woman clearly has for this man is very deep. Each person has to decide in their mind if they're going to stay together and if this crisis was really about each of them looking at their lives and making their changes. All of us have to do that to make a relationship work. You have to be working as a whole person. So if you've let yourself down or if you've become disempowered for whatever reason or if you've become so affected by the traumas that are happening in the world that you're not functioning in the relationship, then things are going to break down. But that doesn't mean that you don't love the other person.